First, ask yourself these questions:
- Where are you right now?
- Where do you want to be?
- Are you truly devoted to doing whatever it takes to succeed?
- Are you clear about what you want, and willing to act on it?
When it comes to goal setting, you must be very clear about what you want your outcome to be, and only then can you create the behaviour patterns to get you there.
We’ve all made decisions that deliver instantaneous gratification (Ice Cream, a cold beer, an impulse purchase), instead of the ones that would take us one step closer to achieving our ultimate goal (the bikini body, the six pack, the new watch).
That’s because making a decision to raise your game will come with all manner of obstacles, and we’re going to look at how you can overcome, and achieve more than you thought possible.
Eliminating the barriers:
Everything is hard before it is easy, and the primary obstacle to be overcome in any behavior change is the strength of the emotional mind, and its love of instant gratification.
Think of the emotional mind like a lion, and the logical mind like the lion tamer. If the lion wants to go somewhere (to get cookies and ice cream for instance), the tamer can try to stop him, but the resistance can only last for so long before the rider is worn out and the lion gets his way (and ends up face down in a sugar coma).
Use the following to help overcome your emotional mind, control your own lion, and create a path to victory over your emotional side.
- Pre define your responses to avoid burning out your willpower, so that you make decisions by design, rather than by default;
- Define the type of person you are. You are the sort of person who overcomes, and succeeds, aren’t you?
- Always ask yourself if what you’re choosing is taking you closer to your end goal. Be crystal clear about what you want; resistance is more often than not, simply a lack of clarity that will lead you in circles.
- Define your risks. Where and when are your efforts most in danger from your control?
- Highlight occasions where you have made the right choices. Define what was special about those occasions, and how can you replicate them more often in the future.
- Understand that failure is part of the process, and it’s there to help you learn to make better choices the next time you are at a crossroads.
So, decide what you’re going to eat before you arrive ravenous at the restaurant, tell yourself you are the sort of person who runs in the mornings, always be ahead of the curve, replicate and review past successes for repeatable patterns, and lastly keep the main thing the ‘main’ thing.
“Imagine you’re being constantly filmed by a camera crew; how would that change your actions” – joe rogan
Creating the shift:
Successful changes have a pattern, and you can use this to create habits that by design take you towards your outcome goal.
Remember, the logical mind wants to change, where the emotional mind loves the comfort of the familiar, so it’s all about consistent steps that gradually make the new pattern familiar (so you don’t spook your inner lion, because we all know what happens to lion tamers who make sudden unexpected moves).
This a process, and once you gain momentum, it will feed on itself, so define your reactions, know your destination, and make minute modifications and choices that consistently progress you towards your goal.